I spend so much time thinking and living in the world of debt that I’ve realized it is equally important to talk about life after debt.
When you are in debt it is an intense and immediate feeling. Some say they feel as if they are drowning. Some say they feel like they are covered by a dark cold veil. Others say it is a time of stress, tension and anger. And all are right.
When you are living in debt it never feels like life will be back to being fun again. It feels dark and depressing. You lose your ability to dream of better things or even allow yourself the luxury of lowering your guard for more than a few minutes to enjoy the moment.
It’s time we stop feeling like that and start dreaming about a life after debt for two reasons.
The first is that it’s easier to get where you are going if you know where you want to go. If you can visualize the life you want to lead, the map to get there is easier to create and the goal is easier to achieve.
The second is that working towards a life after debt will make those living in the shadows of debt hopefully realize that debt does not have to define you. Debt is just a condition, not a statement about your personal value or goodness.
I may not be in the grasp of debt at the moment like I once was, but helping people with money worries every day brings back those old memories and emotions I lived through. They never go completely away for me but I can assure you that once you’ve dealt with your debt issues and move forward with your life, your entire life gets better.
Debt kills dreams. You have to fight to keep your dreams alive. –
The drawback for many is they feel emotionally wounded by the pain of debt and like less of a person after dealing with debt. But as I’ve said before:
The only person judging you is yourself and maybe some other people you may personally know that don’t have a clue about the reality of debt.
You are not a loser. You are a debtor. Those are two very distinct things. Because you are a debtor, you are not also by default, a loser. People confuse the two all the time. Debtor does NOT EQUAL loser.
Cut yourself some slack. The reason you are probably panicking about debt right now is because there has been some change in your life circumstance. Your income has been reduced, your expenses have been increased or you’ve suffered an injury or medical problem.
The debt is the byproduct of some underlying issue that has led to the creation of this unmanageable financial obligation. If you want to jump on something, then start focusing on the issue that caused the imbalance and the debt.
If you can cut expenses, do it. If you can increase income, do it as well. But the last thing you should do is to label yourself as a loser. You are not.
One of the most important lessons I learned in dealing with my debt was that it is okay to dream about a better future as you get out of debt. A better day is ahead and your life will be better if we tackle the debt and move towards a better life as quickly as possible.
We can deal with the debt and the debt situation is actually less of a priority for me than helping you to realize and start to lives towards a better life.
But what is it you want to accomplish?
Some of my Facebook friends offered the following dreams and goals:
You can and share your dreams with others.
Dealing with the debt and moving forward towards a happier life is so important that I even wrote a book about it and I give away the book for free right here.
Where many go astray and scupper their dreams is wanting to pursue happiness by paying for it. It doesn’t take long to learn that the pursuit of happiness through consumption is not a sustainable or viable solution.
While spending and buying may make you feel good for the moment, it’s just not a game plan that will make you feel happy in your soul. Real happiness has to be created through giving, gratitude, and the ability to live within your income.
I really want to hear from you about what your dreams are.
You can post them , add them in the comments below, or so we can all share them. Be sure to .
Right now it is time for you to start dreaming of a better financial future and letting me help you come up with a plan to tackle the current situation. Your happiness awaits you. The real question is are you going to show up for it or are you going to be stuck at the bus station when your ship comes in.
I’d love to hear from you about this. Please post your responses and follow-up messages to me on this in the comments section below.
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